Thoughtful Handcrafted Presents: A Guide to Giving and Receiving Handmade Gifts

The festive season is fast approaching, heralding the time for decorations and selecting perfect gifts for our loved ones. For those creatively inclined, this often means diving into crafting personalized decorations and presents. Mixed-media artist Seth Apter offers his expertise on the etiquette of Handmade Gifts, providing essential dos and don’ts for creating and giving handcrafted items, originally featured in Cloth Paper Scissors magazine.

Seth Apter artwork titled "4 Others 4 Self", mixed media, handmade gift inspiration

The Essence of Handmade Gift-Giving

Every year as the holidays near, the focus naturally shifts to gift-giving. As an artist, much of my gift selection comes from my own creations, alongside the occasional handmade card. Conversely, I am also often a recipient of handmade items from both fellow artists and friends throughout the year for various celebrations.

This exchange sparks reflection on the motivations, methods, and, importantly, the etiquette surrounding handmade gifts. Why are handmade gifts given in the first place? Do givers hold different expectations when a gift is personally crafted? Are these handcrafted presents truly appreciated, or do they inadvertently create a sense of obligation for the receiver?

Ideally, a handmade gift stems from thoughtful consideration, crafted with the recipient’s preferences in mind. The creator pours their heart into their art, aiming to express a heartfelt sentiment. The recipient, in turn, is genuinely delighted, expresses sincere appreciation, and proudly displays the gift. This idyllic scenario leads to joy for both parties, at least until the next gift-giving occasion arises.

However, reality often diverges from this ideal, and gift exchanges can sometimes lead to awkwardness. Let’s delve into the underlying motivations and expectations before outlining the essential dos and don’ts of handmade gift-giving.

Seth Apter artwork titled "Wish", layered textures, example of a handmade art gift

Unpacking the Maker’s Perspective

For the creator, a handmade gift is imbued with significance far beyond the physical object. It represents a gift of time, energy, and a sharing of artistic passion. As art is often an extension of oneself, offering a handmade gift is akin to giving a piece of yourself.

Yet, the reality of handmade gift-giving can be less romantic. An artist with a surplus of creations might simply be looking to declutter, pass on pieces that no longer resonate with their current style, or find a cost-effective gifting solution. These are all valid reasons for including handmade items in one’s gift offerings.

Once a handmade gift is chosen and given, do makers harbor unspoken expectations? Perhaps these resonate with you: a subtle hope for heightened praise compared to a store-bought gift, disappointment if the recipient’s lack of enthusiasm is evident upon opening, or a keen observation during visits to see if the gift is displayed.

These thoughts and feelings are equally relevant for the recipient. Reflect on times you’ve received a handmade gift. What happens when the gift doesn’t align with your taste, even if you appreciate the sentiment? How do you balance honesty with avoiding hurt feelings? Is there an increased sense of obligation to keep or display a handmade gift, and a potential guilt if you don’t? Would re-gifting be considered, passing it on to someone who might appreciate it more?

Seth Apter artwork titled "Spark", vibrant colors, handmade mixed media piece

Navigating Handmade Gift Etiquette: Dos and Don’ts

While no rigid rules govern handmade gift-giving, some practical guidelines—the dos and don’ts—can smooth the process for both makers and receivers.

For the Maker:

Consider the Recipient’s Taste: Prioritize the recipient’s preferences when deciding what to create. Tailoring your handmade gift to their style and interests significantly increases its appreciation.
Manage Expectations: Recognize that artistic taste is subjective. Just as not every artwork resonates with you, your handmade gift may not be universally adored. Avoid taking it personally if it’s not met with overwhelming enthusiasm.
Vary Your Offerings: If you’ve previously gifted a handmade book, consider diversifying your handmade gifts. Explore different crafts or mediums to keep your gifts fresh and exciting.
Reflect on Past Experiences: If a past handmade gift wasn’t well-received, take note. Consider this feedback when choosing future handmade gifts for the same person.
Gift What You Love: As a fundamental principle, only give handmade gifts that you genuinely love and are proud to share. Your passion and care will shine through in the gift itself.

For the Receiver:

Anticipate Handmade Gifts: If you know someone is an artist or craft enthusiast, be prepared to receive handmade gifts. Embrace the likelihood and appreciate the personal touch.
Acknowledge the Effort: Even if the handmade gift isn’t perfectly to your taste, remember the time and effort invested in its creation. This dedication is a significant part of the gift’s value and deserves recognition.
Find Something to Compliment: There’s always a positive aspect to appreciate in a piece of art. Comment on the colors, textures, techniques, or any element that you find appealing. Sincere, specific compliments are always well-received.
No Obligation to Display: Don’t feel pressured to display a gift you don’t love, and avoid guilt if you choose not to. Once a gift is given, it’s yours to decide how to use or keep it.

Ultimately, for everyone involved in the exchange of handmade gifts, remember that the thoughtfulness behind the gesture is what truly counts. Happy holidays!

About Seth Apter:

Seth Apter is a celebrated mixed-media artist, instructor, author, and designer based in New York City. His artwork has been featured in numerous exhibitions and publications. He is the creator of “The Pulse,” collaborative projects that inspired his books: The Pulse of Mixed Media and The Mixed-Media Artist, both published by North Light Books. Seth has also produced six mixed-media workshop videos with North Light. He teaches at Pratt Institute in New York City and leads workshops globally. Seth designs products for leading art brands including Spellbinders Paper Arts, StencilGirl Products, Impression Obsession, and PaperArtsy. Explore more of his work at sethapter.com.

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Seth Apter's workshop cover, "10 Techniques for Painting Layers", handmade gift idea for artists